Explaining to someone who inquires that you are retired and free for the day prompts an observer to later say “Quit saying that! People are tired of hearing you say that.”
Say what? That I am retired. Did I put a little too much happiness into revealing my retirement status?
It seems these days proclaiming that you are retired especially if you are still in your 60’s, may bring out resentment or at least envy from others who often then longingly reply “One day maybe I can retire.”
It may not be that they are sad you are retired, but they immediately think of their current situation and prospects for their own retirement, which may have been dimmed in this prolonged Great Recession.
Saying you are retired is like saying I just bought a new BMW! People will smile and act like they are happy for you, but secretly they feel bad because they want one too. Has retirement become a status symbol?
So what are you supposed to say or is it the way you say it that is just as important? If you plainly report your status as retired without any smile or indication that you may in fact be actually enjoying retirement, would that be better? Probably.
It is hard enough for you to start saying you are retired in the first place. You start off with saying you are trying to retire, or transitioning to retirement, then semi retired, then finally simply retired. Now you discover you better be sensitive to others in reporting your “retired” status or at least do not show too much happiness in doing so. Makes sense to me. Has anyone experienced this?
Originally posted 2010-08-25 15:26:15.